Losing My Mother and Grief Through Menopause

 

Losing your mother in menopause brings two kinds of grief.

 
 

The death of our mother’s can be quite a transition.

Your relationship to your mother may be very close, or it may be estranged. If you are losing your mother, and you are in your 50’s, you may also find yourself feeling loss around your own youthful self.

I turned 50 and lost my mom,
all in the same year.

It was quite the transition. Losing my mom left a special kind of void. Yes, there was grief.

There was also regret, and lack of closure, due to remnants of a dysfunctional mother daughter relationship.

I grew up with a mom that had mental health issues.

If you lived with a mother who struggled with her mental health, you know the need to be mothered, the resilience and skills you have developed to get through life.

This episode contains a content warning.

I speak about growing up with abuse that is “generationally normal”. This does not mean that any abuse is normal. It is in reference to times past, and events that happened.

I also discuss:

  • Postpartum depression

  • The milestone of the death of a mother

  • My mother, the main inspiration for starting The Fullness Podcast.

Our 50’s are also where we have a higher risk if losing people in our lives.

Hopefully, as I work through the feelings of this relationship, this will be one of many Chats, With Alyce.

If you have lost, or are losing your mother, I encourage you to sink into all that you feel through that. Mothers and daughters have conflicted, loving, complicated, painful and deeply bonded relationships.

This may include a trauma bond.

There is so much to gain by leaning in, rather than running.

When you are ready.

 
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